Dear Blogbook!
Why love movies are bad.
No one in the entire world loves romantic movies more than me. And I think that's why I had the hardest time in the beginning of my marriage. Because in all the movies that I love, when people fight, or when there is an disagreement, the guy does everything he can to make up for it. He buys her flowers, gifts, apologizes, does these huge gestures to make sure she forgives him. And in movies when the couple fight, and she kicks him out of the room, he will sleep on the couch. Or that the woman is like the perfect wife, always tidy and neat, kick ass business woman and the best mom ever. The list can be made long. But here are a few very typical movie scenes and how they worked out in my life.
Me to hubby: I don''t want you to sleep in the bed tonight! I can't stand looking at you.
Hubby to me: Well that's your problem since I'm sleeping right here.
*In my mind* Why isn't he sleeping on the couch like I told him to?!
Me to hubby: I'm so mad at you! *Leaves the room*
Hubby to me: Okay, when your done being mad I'm here waiting.
*In my mind* WHY ISN'T HE RUNNING AFTER ME BEGGING FOR MY FORGIVENESS?!
Hubby to me: Did you have time to cook today?
Me to hubby: WHAT DO I LOOK LIKE?! YOUR SLAVE?!?! I JUST GOT HOME FROM WORK!! CAN YOU BREATHE!!!
Hubby to me: Someone had I bad day at work..
Me to hubby; Just leave me alone!! You sexist jerk!!
*Hubby leaves* *In my mind* WHY DIDN'T HE COME AND HUGG ME!!!?! WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM! I OBVIOUSLY HAD I BAD DAY!!
*On the phone*
Me to hubby: What ever bye.
Hubby to me; Bye *Hangs up*
*In my mind* HOW COULD HE HANG UP?!??!!? IS HE STUPID?!?!?!
Okay, so now that we're seen how my mind automatically wanted him to act, let me show you what he actually did.
1: Forced me to stay in bed and cuddled with me until I fell asleep, which I know wouldn't have happened with him on the couch.
2: Called for pizza and called me to stop being a baby and come eat pizza and I forgot why I was mad to start with.
3: He left the house and came back 30 min later with sushi. Enough said.
4: Well I did say bye, so I can't blame him for actually hanging up. But he called like 2 min after and asked if I was done being mad or if he should call back later and tell me we're going out tonight. So basically I forgot why I told him to hang up. And he ended up looking super sexy on our date night, so it was I win win for me. Food and seeing my man in a real shirt which he looks smookin in!
Bottom line is, that I made up these scenes in my head that without my hubby even thinking about doing what he in my head is suppose to do. He knows me, he knows how to make me happy, all that without me telling him how or what to buy me. I'm a very simple girl, food and a movie is usually enough and he knows that.
We have to give the people we're with some slack. Last time I checked I didn't know anyone that could read minds. So how can we get upset when the people don't do what we want them to if we don't TELL them! Instead of using your vocal being a baby about it and whining to your friends and use if to actually TELLING your parter how you feel! Tell them, I would like it if you... I don't like when you... etc. SPEAK!
Like they say "communication is key" and that goes for everything in life.
Take care of each other and be KIND!
Puss xx
No one in the entire world loves romantic movies more than me. And I think that's why I had the hardest time in the beginning of my marriage. Because in all the movies that I love, when people fight, or when there is an disagreement, the guy does everything he can to make up for it. He buys her flowers, gifts, apologizes, does these huge gestures to make sure she forgives him. And in movies when the couple fight, and she kicks him out of the room, he will sleep on the couch. Or that the woman is like the perfect wife, always tidy and neat, kick ass business woman and the best mom ever. The list can be made long. But here are a few very typical movie scenes and how they worked out in my life.
Me to hubby: I don''t want you to sleep in the bed tonight! I can't stand looking at you.
Hubby to me: Well that's your problem since I'm sleeping right here.
*In my mind* Why isn't he sleeping on the couch like I told him to?!
Me to hubby: I'm so mad at you! *Leaves the room*
Hubby to me: Okay, when your done being mad I'm here waiting.
*In my mind* WHY ISN'T HE RUNNING AFTER ME BEGGING FOR MY FORGIVENESS?!
Hubby to me: Did you have time to cook today?
Me to hubby: WHAT DO I LOOK LIKE?! YOUR SLAVE?!?! I JUST GOT HOME FROM WORK!! CAN YOU BREATHE!!!
Hubby to me: Someone had I bad day at work..
Me to hubby; Just leave me alone!! You sexist jerk!!
*Hubby leaves* *In my mind* WHY DIDN'T HE COME AND HUGG ME!!!?! WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM! I OBVIOUSLY HAD I BAD DAY!!
*On the phone*
Me to hubby: What ever bye.
Hubby to me; Bye *Hangs up*
*In my mind* HOW COULD HE HANG UP?!??!!? IS HE STUPID?!?!?!
Okay, so now that we're seen how my mind automatically wanted him to act, let me show you what he actually did.
1: Forced me to stay in bed and cuddled with me until I fell asleep, which I know wouldn't have happened with him on the couch.
2: Called for pizza and called me to stop being a baby and come eat pizza and I forgot why I was mad to start with.
3: He left the house and came back 30 min later with sushi. Enough said.
4: Well I did say bye, so I can't blame him for actually hanging up. But he called like 2 min after and asked if I was done being mad or if he should call back later and tell me we're going out tonight. So basically I forgot why I told him to hang up. And he ended up looking super sexy on our date night, so it was I win win for me. Food and seeing my man in a real shirt which he looks smookin in!
Bottom line is, that I made up these scenes in my head that without my hubby even thinking about doing what he in my head is suppose to do. He knows me, he knows how to make me happy, all that without me telling him how or what to buy me. I'm a very simple girl, food and a movie is usually enough and he knows that.
We have to give the people we're with some slack. Last time I checked I didn't know anyone that could read minds. So how can we get upset when the people don't do what we want them to if we don't TELL them! Instead of using your vocal being a baby about it and whining to your friends and use if to actually TELLING your parter how you feel! Tell them, I would like it if you... I don't like when you... etc. SPEAK!
Like they say "communication is key" and that goes for everything in life.
Take care of each other and be KIND!
Puss xx
